We all want certain things, as we all probably define this a bit differently. One of the most common, arguably opposite extremes I can think of, is the stay at home mom vs. career-driven woman. The mom sees her success in raising outstanding kids in a "perfect" home, while the career-driven woman sees her success as climbing the corporate ladder.
"Regardless of how many strengths you possess, it's almost impossible to achieve greatness alone. Linking with the right people can elevate the breadth and scope of your impact. Others will have strengths you do not, and skills that compliment yours."
You've probably heard this used with who you pick as your friends before, but the same goes for cultivating greatness. Athletes are quite lucky to be in an environment where their success is the main objective. A coaching staff, training staff, and administration are all there to make sure they have the resources they need to be successful at their sport. As a former athlete I can tell you this gets much harder once this is taken away, but taking advantage of that gift and learning the tools as they apply to a sport, is extremely beneficial to life. For the non-athletes, finding circles of people who are driven, intelligent, and welcoming is more challenging, but not impossible. A few good places to start may be: church groups, Meet Ups, Facebook Events, gym classes, and rec league teams. If you have another suggestion, please leave it in the comments!
"When your will is stoked, it overwhelms excuses with conviction, effort, and action. Will can drive everyday greatness, because it spurs you to do the right but difficult thing that others might back down from doing."
The final piece I will leave with, is building confidence. The most successful people on this planet have incredible self-confidence. In Norman Vincent Peale's classic The Power of Positive Thinking, he says:
"Feelings of confidence depend upon the type of thoughts that habitually occupy your mind. Think defeat and you are bound to feel defeated. But practice thinking confident thoughts, make it a dominating habit, and you will develop such a strong sense of capacity that regardless of what difficulties arise, you will be able to overcome them."
Personally, I have crippled my confidence in the past by comparing myself to others or trying to copy them. That's a horrible way to go about things, as comparison is truly the thief of joy. Plus, most people, despite their confident appearance and demeanor, are often as scared as you are and as doubtful of themselves. That being said, if you don't feel confident, fake it till you make it! You become what you repeatedly do, so if you decide to put on your confidence pants everyday, despite how you're feeling, it may just change your world!
1. Surround yourself with the right people